Have you ever met someone who seems to have it all together-happy all the time, polished, ready to help, friendly and charming - yet the more you get to know them, they are actually there to help only when they need something in return. They are self-centered and dishonest.
If you are an empath or a highly sensitive person, you may easily attract people like this.
I call them emotional vampires or energy vampires.
They appeal to your generous nature, compassion and your problem solving attitude.
How can you recognize an energy vampire?
They come in many different shapes and forms.
Some are very “fake” friendly.
Some are manipulative and untruthful or drama queens.
Some are non-stop talkers who only talk about themselves.
As an empath you might feel tired, drained and sleepy around people like that. Some empaths even develop physical ailments due to spending time around draining people like that.
Energy vampires and people with energy vampire traits have been through some sort of trauma in their life, but because fear occupied their entire life, they are afraid of light and the only way they can sustain their energy is to sap the energy of empaths and highly sensitive people.
Why? Because empaths are determined to make the world a better place. They are very kind and accommodating people, and energy vampires take advantage of their generosity and kindness.
I was in friendships with people where I would keep on going the extra mile. Always. Because it is my nature. However, it was shocking to realize that not everyone is like me.
Not everyone was willing to go that extra mile. That made me feel like a weirdo. I could not understand what seemed to me like a natural and common thing to do. That left me doubting myself.
I thought there was something wrong with me.
Another thing I could not understand is why I would talk or walk by the fake happy person and have a fast heartbeat all the time. Like my body was trying to tell me something.
I would freeze around certain people unable to say anything.
However, when I started taking care of my empathic nature and my needs and desires, I started identifying energy vampires and setting clear boundaries. I started attracting amazing people!
Those who did not belong in my life were removed by the Universe and we went to our own destinations.
By now you probably have an idea if you have energy vampires in your life.
Here are the questions you can ask yourself to know for sure.
Do I look forward to seeing this person or do I feel alarmed?
How do I feel around this person?
Do I suddenly feel sleepy around this person?